Life never comes exactly as we had planned. As children, we do not care about the world. Apart from the timely completion of homework and homework, there are no significant obligations. Then, as we grow into young adults, we begin to experience what life is. We began to recognize the various events that make us react in ways that we were sometimes unprepared for. However, our response to these events will have a direct impact on our future. It is important to be more proactive than reactive, and it is equally important to respond positively. The effective and positive response to life events (good and bad) helps us to steer our future development.
20 Ways to Find Happiness
1. Think positive, not negative.
Probably the most important step towards happiness. It is very difficult to be happy when you think about everything negatively. Things to try
a) Count your blessings / smell the roses. At the end of each day, instead of focusing on the bad things that have happened, think of all the good things and the happiness they have given you. And think of all the people who are in a much worse situation than you.
b) Be active/proactive and non-reactive. If you have a problem, instead of feeling stressed, focus on how to solve it quickly and efficiently. When your mind is busy finding a solution, you stop pitying yourself and start thinking positively.
c) Stop negative thoughts in your tracks. When you start to feel negative thoughts, move consciously to prevent them from fully forming, try to think of something else.
2. Improve your self-image
A bad self-image can cause you to sabotage good things, unconsciously thinking that you do not deserve a good relationship or a good job, and thus ruin your chances. A bad self-image can be caused by bad early experiences, and if it is not changed, that belief will be further strengthened throughout its life. It is important to have a healthy respect and respect to respect your and your fellow human beings’ wishes and to feel good about your own skin and what it does. Here are some things you should try if you have problems with the self-image:
a) Make a list of things that you like about yourself.
b) Stop your negative internal dialogue and instead present a positive self-dialogue of support.
c) Do not compare yourself with others. Accept who you are
d) Try to change things that you do not like about yourself. If you think you are very fat then you lose weight, if you do not like how you dress, then change it.
e) Do not go out with people who despise you, avoid those who point out your mistakes.
3. Change negative patterns
These are the models that have been determined to be not good for you.
a) The first step is to see if you have a problem with it. If you feel that you have a problem, then it is time to act. As you change your thinking patterns, you can change the way you think about things.
b) The second step is to know when to use destructive thought patterns. Sometimes you will have negative patterns in some areas of life, but not others: for example, you can have confidence in your work, but not in your love life.
c) The third step is to replace the bad ones with good ones. This is the hardest part and it will be difficult for you to block a negative thought. Instead of trying, you should try to replace negative thinking with positive thinking. So, if it comes to mind “I’m so stupid”, do not think “I’m not stupid”, it will not work. Instead, direct the thought in your head to “I’m really smart enough”. After a while, earlier models should slowly disappear.
4. Maintain a good support system
People with a good support system are more successful in overcoming depression, maintaining self-esteem, and overcoming loneliness.
There is also evidence that people with a good support system have fewer health problems.
5. Be realistic about the problems of life
Realizing the expectations and failures of life requires realistic expectations. The events of life are not a problem if we do not see them that way. Life is never perfect and to some extent, discomfort and problems are part of everyday life. If our assessments are realistic, then we can better respond to the events of daily life with a sense of proportion.
The judgments we make are a product of our belief system. If we have unrealistic and inflexible beliefs, our assessments may not be the most appropriate for the situation.
6. Master challenges successfully
Here are three techniques to help you face challenges more effectively:
a) Prepare for the challenge. Think about how you’re going to do it, and even if you know it’s going to be stressful, think about what you’ll experience.
b) Accept the challenge. Talk about it by giving yourself a positive internal dialogue.
do). Look what you have learned. Think about what happened, see how you can improve, but do not be too self-critical.
7. Leave your comfort zone,
It gives you confidence and helps you to feel better.
8. Think of hard times as a valuable learning experience
9. Find good models
Spend time with positive people you can learn from
10. Listen to motivational CDs.
11. Walk, talk and think about the person you want to be.
After all, you should become that person.
12. Try cognitive behavioral therapy
CBT is designed to change the way your mind perceives events and to help you feel better when you encounter this situation in the future.
CBT usually involves important events and the feelings that cause them. He then questions and questions any reaction that is not helpful to a person’s happiness and seeks to develop new behaviors and respond to such events.
CBT can be a long process, but it is one of the most effective ways to improve people’s mindset.
It’s usually more effective than a course, but you can also get books on it.
13. Test neurolinguistic programming
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is also designed to alter the perception of events by the mind and help you to better respond to those events, but it does more by observing the subconscious to try to change the way your mind works. He uses techniques such as anchoring (using a physical action to trigger thoughts of an earlier positive event) to improve his response to events.
14. Read the help books
Books can be an important way to solve problems. There are books for almost every problem that exists.
15. Make confirmations
Basically, it’s about repeating positive things for you like “I’m very good at my job” or “I’m an attractive and charming person”. For an affirmation to be effective, it must be present, positive, personal and specific.
16. Try to look
Imagine, in the situation you want to be, either in a job that you want to be or in the kind of relationship in which you want to be. If you imagine that, it will become more likely.
17. Go to the doctor
If you are very depressed and feel that you can not do anything to improve the situation, you should go to the doctor.
18. See a counselor or therapist
Additionally or alternatively, you can go to a counselor or therapist. There are several types of therapy and it is important to find the right therapist or counselor for you.
19. Think of others instead of yourself
When you do things, even the little ones, for others, you will feel good.
20. Stay busy
If you think too much, let negative thoughts come to the fore. So try to occupy yourself